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Join the chorus: Teri’s story
A few days ago, I invited my readers to help me speak out against abuse. To be a choir of voices for the voiceless (if you would like to be a voice, read my post “Join the chorus“ for more...
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Thoughts and feelings
The following is an exchange between Sarah the Thinker and Sarah the Feeler. Feeler parts are in parenthesis because I often attempt to skip over them as though they don’t matter as much. (But they do)...
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When I can
People assume that healing from abuse is a strict progression of cause to effect, but actually from a non-linear, non-subjective viewpoint – it’s more like a big ball of wibbly wobbly… time-y wimey…...
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Never going back
Trigger Warning for Abuse I used to be in an abusive relationship. Once, I broke up with him, and he threatened to kill me for it. I was in his car, and I told him I didn’t want to be with him anymore....
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Relevant Magazine, Hugo Schwyzer, and a thing called grace
Trigger warnings for rape, abuse, stalking I believe in a thing called grace. Really, I do. I believe people can change, and when people change, I believe in giving those people a second chance. But...
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No Experience Necessary?
If you wanted an expert opinion on something, usually you’d ask someone with experience on the subject. If you wanted parenting advice, you’d probably ask someone who was a parent, not someone who...
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John Shore on IFB survivors and my journey toward healing
Image via David Hayward This piece at John Shore’s blog just awakened all kinds of emotions for me: In surviving the worst survivors of IFB have become the best. The writings that I’ve read from former...
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Some humans are more equal than others: John Piper on spousal abuse and...
I’m doing a series on complementarianism’s manipulative claims at promoting equality. You can read the intro here. The first entry, on Joshua Harris, can be found here. When I first left the tiny...
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No one’s Messiah
Image via PassionOfAGoddess.com To Christian men and the churches they attend: I am not your Christ. Churches may try to put women on a cross, sacrificing them so that men may be pure and holy. But I...
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Let me be angry.
Trigger Warning for abuse and rape: I’ve been tired of fighting. Been feeling like nothing is coming through. Been terrified of being dismissed as an angry feminist. But being too filled with...
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My body remembers
[TRIGGER WARNINGS: Rape and Abuse] As many of you know, in highschool I spent a year in an abusive relationship. Some of my memories of my abuse are vague and foggy. But then other memories I remember...
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Must reads!
Lots of posts that I want to share this week. I hope you’ll check them out, as they are all important! They discuss a wide variety of topics, from God, to rape culture, to The Wizard of Oz, to...
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Spiritual Abuse Awareness Week: Violences are Connected
IMAGE BY DANI KELLEY Back in February, Sen. Marco Rubio explained why he opposed the Violence Against Women Act: I could not support the final, entire legislation that contains new provisions that...
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Spiritual Abuse Awareness Week: My Guest Post at Rachel Held Evans
IMAGE BY DANI KELLEY Today I’m guest posting at Rachel Held Evans’ blog, talking about abuse and images of God. God is love. I believe that with my whole heart. But what is God? And what is love? We...
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The cross and radical activism
The idea that Jesus chose, out of his own free will, to go to the cross is a favorite among abusive church leaders. What better way to get people to submit to you than to compare the God they worship...
View Article“You Are Not Your Own:” Is Rape Just Another “Sexual Sin?”
This post is part of a series called“You Are Not Your Own,” focusing on rape and sexual assault in Christian relationship/dating books Content Note: rape, sexual assault, victim blaming This is the...
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Content Note: Child Abuse, Spanking I’ve followed Stuff Fundies Like for years now. It’s been a great resource in my journey away from fundamentalism, helping me realize how harmful some of the stuff...
View Article“You Are Not Your Own:” Wrapping Things Up
This post is part of a series called“You Are Not Your Own,” focusing on rape and sexual assault in Christian relationship/dating books Content Note: rape, sexual assault We’ve come to the last post in...
View ArticlePrivilege in Christian Pacifism: My Life is Not Your Thought Exercise
I wrote this post a few days ago and had it scheduled for today, but since h00die_R is hosting a synchroblog at Political Jesus on the topic of pacifism, I thought I’d link up! Check it out and see if...
View ArticlePrivilege in Christian Pacifism: Fight the Systems, Not the Survivors
This is the second post in a short series I’ve been working on about the problems that privilege brings in Christian pacifist circles. The first post can be found here. I’m also linking this post up to...
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